Sometimes You Need….

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Sometimes you need to have a surprise Friday off from work. To do absolutely nothing but lay in bed and catch up on books and blogs, do five loads of laundry, and eat a crazy amount of popcorn.

Sometimes you need a couple of days removed from #nannylife because even though it fills you with so much joy, it’s nice to remember that you’re actually a young, single, 25 year old in a big city.

Sometimes you need to watch every basketball game you can get your eyes on to remind you of just how damn much you love sports.

Sometimes you need to FaceTime with your parents for two hours while your face sits on a tiny throne they’ve built at the kitchen table while they eat dinner.

Sometimes you need your dad to remind you to share the amazing picture above, of my first onesie and first pair of sneaks, with the world. I really do love it, Pop, sorry it took me a bit to share.

Sometimes you need to eat the entire bag of Mini Cadbury Eggs because, you know, it’s Easter.

And sometimes, you need to take a few weeks waffling back and forth about what to write about on this here blog before you realize–this is my blog, I do what I want.

I’m baaaaack. Full time-ish and ready to go. Missed y’all!

The Stroller Diaries // 52

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This week is a funny one. There is a good chance this week will be my last normal week with Ladybug and Stink. Starting next week we may add a whole new baby to the mix, cutting back with my time with Stink (cue tears) while his mom is on maternity leave. Then, at some point, little Baby Egg will be thrown in the mix too. I’m basically running my own child care facility at this point. And I dig it.

But man, is it going to be (and already is) hard. We’re dealing with adjusting to new siblings and less one-on-one attention. We’re learning not to push and hit and throw and dump toys on the ground. Oh my word, the dumping of the toys on the ground. I cannot explain why but the sound of a basket of fake food or box of legos cascading to the ground literally makes every muscle in my body tense and my face turn red. I cannot stand it. So, we’re working on controlling our bizarre temper as well as not dumping toys on the ground.

We’re trying to use our walking feet in the library and our gentle hands with, well, everyone. Because lately the cool thing to do seems to be to walk up to another child, get as close to their face as possible, and then throw your entire body weight into theirs. When in the WORLD did that become a thing?! Someone, please tell me.

So it’s hard and it’s frustrating, but it’s still so good. And I’m excited for the new friends to come, and sad to see our old routines go. I’ve already spent a while mourning last summer. Last summer was seriously the best. We were at the park by 8AM, there until 11AM, went home sweaty and dirty and exhausted, napped for hours, went to the splash pads, walked miles and miles together, and just generally had the best time. This summer won’t be like that, we’ll have one or two 6 month olds with us. Schedules have changed. And I’m sure it will still be lovely.

But boy, I miss those long days.

Single Girl Chronicles: The One About Cutting Ties

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As we’ve covered in previous Single Girl posts:

1. I can be quite awkward

and

2. I don’t have a ton of experience when it comes to dating — online or regular in-person dating.

Because of this, one of the great conundrums of this whole getting out there and meeting people thing is how to tell someone you want to stop seeing them after only one or two encounters.

Let me take a step back and acknowledge that the normal, cordial thing to do would be to tell someone to their face or through a phone call. But let me also acknowledge that the world of meeting late at night at a bar or through Tinder/OKCupid is not a normal situation and must be treated as such.

I’ve experienced a couple of different (almost always disastrous) ways of ending things.

First, there is the text message. This is by far my favorite way to end things. It’s quick, it’s easy, it’s less awkward for all parties. However, I realize that not everyone finds this to be appropriate. The first time I used this form of communication in this scenario was probably almost two years ago. I had been on a few dates with a guy, the first since a big break up, and had decided he really wasn’t for me. He lived about an hour from me and we had never spoken on the phone. Strictly in person and text message communication. I sent a very polite (or so I thought) text and then dreaded the next ding from my phone. But I was certain that I had chosen the proper form of communication.

False.

Dude freaked out. Like, got really mad at me and called me immature. And I get that texting is not the best way to communicate. But what was my other option?! An awkward phone call when we CLEARLY avoided speaking on the phone?! Or asking him to drive an hour to hang out to only say once he got there sorry, just wanted to politely say I don’t want to date you! It was a lose, lose.

Good news is, recently I had to do the same text message thing and the guy thanked me for being honest and was very polite. So really, it is impossible to tell who prefers what form of communication.

The second form of ending things that I have (shamefully) utilized is the classic….just don’t answer their texts. This is reserved for guys I’ve met at bars and exchanged numbers with and then woke up with a clearly (less alcohol fueled) brain and decided there was actually no reason for us to hang out. This is typically successful and a mutual agreement, as I never hear from them either.

Except in one bizarre, bizarre case. Last year, on my birthday, towards the end of the night (which means around 3AM) a guy started talking to me at the bar. The bar was closing so we quickly exchanged numbers and I headed straight for Jumbo Slice with my peeps. He texted me the next day and I may or may not have Facebook stalked him and determined that I had serious beer goggles on the night before. Deciding that there was no reason to continue this as we DIDN’T KNOW EACH OTHER AT ALL I didn’t answer him.

And then he texted me the next day.

And then the next. This time he said I haven’t heard from you in a few days, is everything okay? Um yes, sir. You haven’t ever heard from me, I’m fine. I still didn’t answer.

A week later, another text. I hope you find someone to make you really happy, you’re a great person and deserve that. Sir, that’s sort of kind but mostly creepy because I DON’T KNOW YOU and we only spoke for 10 minutes max. For all you know I am the worst person ever!! Still didn’t answer him.

It’s now been 10 months. And without fail this guy texts me once a month either asking how I’ve been or just randomly saying hi. Luckily, I haven’t deleted his number so I don’t accidentally say who is this? and start a conversation.

Because at this point, dude, what do you think is going to happen? I’m going to say Oh hello!! I’ve been ignoring your CREEPY texts for almost a year but today, today I have decided I want to date you. WHAT?!?

And you know, I’ve been on the other end of the “don’t answer their texts” situation and it does suck, for about five minutes, and then you realize that you DON’T KNOW THIS PERSON and if they don’t want to know you enough to answer your text, it’s best to cut your losses.

So yes, this is not the most mature tactic but really, I hate talking on the phone, NO ONE TALKS ON THE PHONE ANYMORE, and I see no better way of going about this always awkward situation.

Happy Birthday, Ladybug!

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Oh my dear Ladybug. You are two years old! And when I ask you how old you are you say two! and then stare at your fingers, willing them to form the number two but just not sure how you could possibly get them into that position.

You are brilliant. Truly, the most brilliant little girl I’ve ever met. And yes, I’m completely biased and you could just grunt all day long and I would still think this, but really, you’re crazy smart.

You speak in legitimate complete sentences. My favorite recent one was I put on a show! when you jumped on a piece of plywood and started performing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star like you were standing center stage at the Kennedy Center.

Over the last two years I’ve learned that I pretty much know nothing. Had you asked me last year which of my nanny babes would’ve been the most out going I would have said Stink, without hesitation. Same goes for which babe would be the most brave at the playground. But I was oh so wrong.

You are so friendly and so curious that it is impossible for you to be shy. Sure, out going doesn’t always mean talkative when it comes to you, but you will let almost anyone hold your hand or carry you, all the while giving them a quizzical look that clearly conveys Don’t think that I like you yet, I’m just tolerating you until I make my decision. But please continue to cart me around town while I make this decision.

You just learned how to walk on the balance beam at the park, you go down slides like you’re on the Olympic luge team. You love seesaws, to my great chagrin.

You are bright and bold and beautiful and make me so proud all the time.

Bug, I cannot believe how far we’ve come since you were my tiny little Elvis impersonator. I love you with all the love and I hope that we never stop greeting each other with arms wide, running across the room hugs.

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You in the same shirt as the above shot, a year and a half prior!

Last year’s birthday message can be found here!

The Stroller Diaries // 51

This is a special edition of The Stroller Diaries because today I want to announce the arrival of our new nanny family member!!

Stink’s mom had his new baby SISTER yesterday afternoon!!! We didn’t know if she was a boy or a girl until she was born and the suspense nearly KILLED ME. I can’t imagine how impatient their mama felt because I was busting a gut to know.

I wanted to come up with an insect nickname for her since, you know, we’ve got Stink (like a stink bug) and Ladybug. My mom suggested Grasshopper or Flea (Flea nearly made me pee my pants) but I then Stink came up with the best nickname ever.

I have been trying to prep him for the new baby’s arrival, because, let’s be honest, he lives the life of a sometimes spoiled only child (which I certainly don’t help, I dote on that boy like it’s my job…..because it is). We’ve been talking about how the new baby was going to cry a lot and how she will sleep in the crib. And most importantly how we are going to use our gentle hands with the baby. Gentle hands are not our forte.

So, while Stink’s mom was waiting to be induced at the hospital yesterday, I decided to ask him what he thought we should name the baby.

Well, forget the insect theme, Egg it is.

Egg, we cannot wait to meet you and squeeze you (with our gentle hands). And I cannot wait for the chaos that will be this summer when you join our day-to-day group.

Also, stay tuned for ANOTHER potential new baby joining us. Stink is going to go part-time while his mama is on maternity leave (which breaks my heart) so we are on the lookout for a new baby for a few days a week. I’m meeting a four and a half month old and his parents tomorrow! Details and a nickname, maybe breakfast food themed, will come soon!

Currently: March // 2015

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appreciating the spring weather, oh boy, it’s glorious.

eating Mini Cadbury Eggs, literally all of them.

watching or rather, about to start watching, Parks and Rec! And then Girls.

loving my new polka dotted skirt.

planning to start practicing my juggling.

walking more and more with the babies! It’s stroller weather folks, and we are all in.

enjoying the 30 Days of Yoga Challenge I’m working on.

buying dresses for all the wedding, graduation, and birthday events that are upcoming.

singing Teddy Bear Teddy Bear Turnaround with Ladybug.

drinking vodka and grapefruit nowadays, it’s a nice change from vodka cranberry.

marveling at how quickly this year is passing, and things are about to get very busy around here.

waiting on Stink’s mom to have their second baby this week!

celebrating St. Patty’s Day–I guess. I can’t really be bothered with this holiday.

looking forward to going to the Dominican Republic in less than 100 days!

listening to Shut Up and Dance With Me–all day er’y day.

wishing the weekend was four days long.

remembering what this month looked like in 2014.

Girls Weekend

One of the bests parts of moving a ways away from friends and family is getting to host them when they come to visit my beautiful city! And those visits are made even better when they book a hotel with a bathtub and I get to enjoy a little staycation!

Leah and her mama, Melissa, came to visit from North Carolina this week and we enjoyed a lovely two and a half days in DuPont.

There were drinks, shopping, delicious food, good time with friends, and lots of baths for me (I’m deprived of baths in my shower-only apartment).

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We started the trip with a few hours walking around Columbia Heights with the babes. Ladybug continued her slow walking tradition and Leah and Melissa helped speed things up by grabbing her hands and propelling her forward. It was quite adorable.

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After spending time with my littles, we stopped by our hotel and then headed to Public to watch the Tarheels beat Virginia to go to the finals of the ACC tournament! It was lovely, despite terrible service.

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Saturday was full of shopping. Lots and lots of shopping with Taylor along too! We all spent too much money and had so much fun. I am coveting this dress and waiting for it to go on sale.

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And I absolutely could not resist this skirt, you better believe I scooped it right up.

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Melissa treated us all to ice cream to end our marathon shopping trip and it was deeeeeeeeelicious, as Stink would say.

The rest of the weekend was spent talking (oh there was a lot of talking), resting in our amazing hotel beds, and having fantastic brunch at Founding Farmers.

It was such a good weekend and I’m so glad they came to visit! Leah, Melissa, you’re welcome back anytime!!

The Stroller Diaries // 50

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It was sometime between noticing that Ladybug’s legs reach the bottom of the stroller and  helping Stink slide down the fireman’s pole at the playground this week that I realized the inevitable. My nanny babies…….they aren’t really babies anymore. In fact, they are bordering on growing out of the toddler label as well. I’ve got actual kids on my hands. Kids that walk and talk and use complete sentences. Kids that run and jump and splash in puddles all day long. Kids that don’t listen and use their outside voices inside and pull each other’s hair.

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But then, Stink wakes up from his nap and rolls over and grabs my cheeks and Ladybug can’t figure out how to get her foot out from under her bottom to sit in a chair and I remember that they are still the sweetest, silliest, best little babies in the whole world. And they always will be.

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Spring and Other Random Thoughts

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So, spring is technically still a couple of weeks away but, I don’t care. Daylight savings has come and gone and everything is so much better because of it. The sun is up for at least an hour after I get off work, temperatures are warming, the snow is melting. IT IS MARVELOUS.

Things that aren’t marvelous include Ladybug screaming hysterically in her crib and trying to trick me into getting her up from her nap by pretending she has to potty.

But back to the good stuff. I’m still having serious writer’s block when it comes to the blog but I did find some fun and heart warming stuff on the internets recently that I wanted to share.

First up, I just finished reading Kelle Hampton’s book, Bloom, which I’ll review later this month–but she is doing a fundraiser for an organization that provides scholarships for students with Down syndrome. I cannot encourage you enough to at least read her blog post about a program at Western Carolina University and then if you feel compelled, donate here!

Other good things:

A Walking Dead spin off–this could later be filed in the bad things category, but I’m going to give it a shot.

Sam Smith and John Legend did a song together–this is the best thing to happen to music ever.

Lena Dunham and Ellen are a perfect pairing and I really MUST start watching Girls.

And good news from real life:

I cleaned out my car yesterday, ate a salad for dinner, and went for a run–yes, I am an adult.

My plane ticket to the DR has been purchased!!! Less than 100 days!!

I made a KILLER bachelorette party invite for Taylor, I’ll be sure to share it here once it goes out to the girls later this spring!

Stink’s mom is about to have another baby!!!

And Becky and Nate had their first little girl, Mary Rose, last week. I got to see her on Sunday–she’s beautiful and tiny and reminded me of a baby bird. The most beautiful baby bird ever. I’m so proud of my friends.

March Goals // 2015

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Whoops, well these are coming in a few days late, huh? You know the drill, let’s do some review and throw some new goals out there. But first, I would like everyone admire my five favorite things in the picture above: my leather jacket, my new Madewell purse, my new leopard dress, my Rifle Co phone case, and my Alex and Ani bracelets.

Alright, now that we’ve finished that, goals!!

February Goals

- Keep up with the blog better, four posts a week. Finally post an apartment tour and another edition of Single Girl Chronicles.  Well, I got those two posts up but I’m having serious writer’s block when it comes to the rest of my posts.

- Mail two care packages I’ve been assembling for a while. Check and check! Both were received this past week.

- Exercise four times a week. Oh geeze.

- Start seriously researching a half marathon to register for (ahh!!) I did start researching this but still haven’t decided which race I want to do. 

March Goals 

- Do at least ten minutes of yoga every morning. I started this at the end of last month and I do it pretty consistently Mon-Thurs but the struggle is REAL on the weekends.

- Finish the invites for Taylor’s bachelorette party–I’m almost done already and I’m OBSESSED WITH THEM.

- Read four new books (already got one in the bag, woo!)

- Try a new church this Sunday

- Spend five days each week not eating any sweets–so far I’ve got three days in the bag this week.

- Run outside starting next week–daylight savings combined with warmer weather means I can finally hit the pavement again.

Hope everyone is having a good month so far! I hope to be back here more often next week. Happy Friday!